Love-is-all-you-need In the 1960’s, the Beatles boldly proclaimed that, “All You Need is Love”~ many of us cling to this idea, but do we know what is love? Is it true that love is all we need, and what kind of love do we really need?

3 Pieces to the Love Puzzle

Intimacy The feeling of being ‘connected’ or very close in a relationship. Feelings of being close to someone and trust in the relationship are present.

Passion The excitement and energy of the relationship. Feelings of physical and sexual attraction are at the forefront.

Commitment The settling or the history of the relationship, including decisions, experiences, and a sense of obligation to someone you have spent a long time with.

The Love Triangle

Liking: Intimacy Alone: feeling connected and bonded (a close friend)

Empty Love: Commitment Alone: decision to be with someone out of obligation

Infatuation: Passion Alone: Physical attraction/Sexual relationship

Romantic Love: Intimacy and Passion: no commitment, no expectations

Fatuous Love: Passion and Commitment: no intimacy, do you know me?

Companion-ate Love: Intimacy and Commitment: no passion, no spark or attraction

Consummate Love: Intimacy and Passion and Commitment: the perfect relationship with strong emotional, physical, and mental connections

The good news is; you can achieve consummate love if that is what you desire! It may take time, energy, and effort; however, in the end you will reap the reward