Single in the suburbs

by Anonymous

Cheers! I hope you had a great Saint Patrick’s Day & Easter. Now, it’s time to prepare for warm weather, or in my case, my next date. This past month I did the unexpected and went out with a guy. Well, an old friend. Okay fine it was an ex. We went out for dinner and drinks to talk and see what we had missed in each other’s lives within the past year, but how we reconnected is the most hilarious part of all.

I was away on vacation a few weeks ago, sitting on the beach and I got this unexpected and wordy email from one of my ex’s confessing his deep profound love for me. I had no idea he was even thinking of me since we haven’t talked in over a year. I read the email twice to make sure I was understanding it correctly. Yes, I was right. He claimed he had just broken it off with his ex and he couldn’t stop thinking of me and he wanted to know if I would accept his offer to date. Where did all this come from? I was so taken back and in the middle of reading it once more when my phone vibrates again. It’s another email from him.  It read: “Hi (Anonymous), I’m so sorry that last email wasn’t meant for you, it was for another person by the same name. I’m so embarrassed. Please forgive me. How are you by the way?”


I was about to have a heart attack right there in the sand! I was quite relieved that the email wasn’t meant for me, but a part of me was happy that I got the message.  It gave me hope to witness a man professing his love with the absolute possibly of being shot down. In the end, she didn’t accept his offer, but I accepted his suggestion to have dinner and drinks. Just as friends. We met at a local happy hour, and I have to admit it was really great to see him. He told me about his new promotion, new apartment, and new car. I congratulated him countless times as it makes me happy to see him happy. At the end of our dinner, we topped it off with some crème brulee, and I caught him staring at me at the corner of my eye. He then said softly, “You still look amazing as ever.”

Photographer: Comaniciu Dan

Photographer: Comaniciu Dan

He was such a sweet guy, good looking and smart, but just not for me. We only dated for a short time, but I’m the type of person who thinks if it didn’t work out then, why would it work out now? With that aside, can two people who have dated before in a serious relationship become friends over time? I have seen it happen, but I’m not sure it can sustain as a healthy relationship once one of them moves on and gets married.

So far I’ve tried, meeting people at bars is sleazy business and now we know an ex is an ex for a reason. Looks like I’m joining I will tell you about my adventures next time!